Self Care Is More Than a Buzzword
Self Care Is More Than a Buzzword
I’m going to come clean on something. Self-care has been at the very bottom of my priority list for a long time. Instead, I’ve been working around the clock here at Frame This. Why? Because Frame This is more than a business to me, it’s my creative outlet and passion all rolled into one. It’s near impossible for me to switch off and so self-care hasn’t been on the agenda at ALL.
You see, when I launched this lovely business of mine I didn’t have high expectations. I thought it would be amazing if I could continue creating on the side but honestly didn’t think it would turn into a proper business in such a short amount of time. I’ve learnt a really important lesson during this process. Don’t set the bar so low! Always aim high.
As women in business, I believe we tend to downplay our goals and success. I’m not sure why but I’ve certainly fallen victim to this line of thinking. Which in turn, led me to believe that my hobby business could never become a fully-fledged business. As a result of that, I didn’t prepare myself for the ‘busy’ that has taken me completely by surprise. Instead of working methodically and strategically, I’ve been WORKING…24/7.
So? Self-care has been an afterthought……. until now.
If you’re a mother, teacher or business owner, you no doubt have a lot going on. As someone who’s been through near-burnout, I want to share what a lack of self-care looks like.
Sleep Can Make or Break You
Sleep. Good quality sleep goes right out the window.
Between working all day, mumming until 8pm or so and working right up past midnight, sleep has been a distant memory. It sounds like a great idea to sacrifice sleep to maximise productivity but let me tell you, it’s not. You know this, but I want to reiterate it.
Without sleep, your body cannot restore and revive itself meaning you’re constantly battling against yourself to get through a day. Your body grabs onto waking moments to do important work and as a result, you feel sluggish and deprived of all energy. As a business owner, creative energy is absolutely paramount to my success and without sleep … it just doesn’t come to the party.
Eating Right Makes a Difference
Another struggle has been making the time to actually feed myself. It sounds crazy but I often find I haven’t stopped to nourish my body all day. I then reach for high-calorie, not-a-vege-in-sight, fast food. Which does nothing but again, make you feel BLAH to the max.
So now I’ve promised myself gorging on chocolate throughout the day to make up for the fact I haven’t eaten lunch will no longer be an acceptable exercise. I’ve taken to pre-planning my meals to ensure I’m actually eating a balanced diet which serves me rather than works against me. And lucky for me, I have an amazing hubby that has dinner served every single night (Yup! I scored and this one’s definitely a keeper. Lol)
There Is Always Time for Exercise
I can’t count the amount of times I’ve planned to go for a run, only to get side-tracked and not go at all. I’ve booked Yoga sessions and completely forgotten about them. I’ve stopped going on long walks with the family because I’m just too busy. All of this has been in an effort to again, maximise time spent on the business.
What I’ve realised now is exercise clears my mind and keeps my body healthy. Without it, I’m simply not at my best. My plan now is to schedule those sweat sessions into the calendar so they are non-negotiable. My business partner (and husband) Paul, knows that under no circumstance am I switching these self-care appointments for ANYTHING.
I wanted to write this post because I see a lot of glitz and glamour over on Instagram. We’ve glorified having a small business and mixing it with kids. Now, don’t get me wrong, it’s all kinds of amazing. The flexibility, the autonomy, the creative outlet … I wouldn’t change any of it. *But* we often hide the hard bits and the struggle from each other.
Not only does this make it seem like you’re not thriving if you’re struggling, it creates a weird secret subculture. One where we’re all smiling for the camera but collapsing in a heap when we’re alone.
So, from one woman to another: self-care is more than a buzzword. It’s a necessity. You simply cannot be at your best when you’re treating your body and your mind like a 7/11 convenience store. Switching off and taking care of your biggest asset, yourself, is a MUST if you want to thrive.